Apologies as it’s been over 3 months since my last blog and many of you have been kindly asking for an update. Well firstly, I do hope you have all had a fantastic Christmas and wish you all a happy & healthy 2017!
So going back to work in September was tougher than I thought it would be. After being off for 8 days short of 1 year, it was a shock to the system. Everyone at work has made me feel so welcome and Barclays have been so supportive. I returned on a rehab programme building up my hours and by mid November I was up to full time hours with time split between the office and home working. After focussing on increasing the hours, it was then time to focus on the concentration levels and increasing the workload. Early symptoms are tiredness and headaches but I’m getting there.
It was also much more mentally challenging than I had expected. It’s hard to adapt and accept that I was not the person as I was before and up to normal speed. I was probably more hard on myself than I needed to be and came to realise that in many ways it was like starting a new job and to pace myself.
Outside of work I have been doing my best to keep up with balancing work/ family life and exercise! Exercise was going well up until Christmas(!!), but I have started again this week with Pilates! Although Ali had her hip op & has been recovering (we’ve decided she is a better carer & I’m a better patient!!!) we have had a good few months celebrating family birthdays as well as my own and doing normal family activities which previously we had often taken for granted (footy with the kids, parks etc). Finally, I had my belated 40th boys weekend away in the lakes involving beers, walking, food and more beers in stunning clear winter weather! We were also very fortunate to have a great family trip to Goodison Park and a meet & greet with the everton players! Josh, Erin & myself loved it, Erin managed not to tell them Ali supported Man U & Ali went along politely!!!! Thank you to a fab friend for kindly arranging this – we first heard about this possibility driving down to Leicester ahead of my operation & it cheered me up no end.
The last few months have brought up a lot of anniversary’s … this time a year ago etc…. which is hard and emotional at times for Ali and I but it also makes us feel very proud of how far we have come. You as our family & friends keep us all positive which is very much appreciated.
January is now scan anxiety month with results early Feb – which we are already thinking about! I have decided to go and see a Macmillan key worker to see what help they can give with regards to scan anxiety, and coping mechanisms with living with a terminal illness. We have been through some low moments of adapting back to some ‘normality’ and I want to seek support to see if there are ways of coping better with it.
I feel 2017 is going to be a great year though. I’m hoping to do some fundraising/awareness campaign and making lots of precious memories with family and friends. We also hope 2017 is a break through year for those suffering from mesothelioma and indeed all cancers.
Thanks for all your continued support.
Dave & Ali xx